So Called Friend

I try to listen and not care about the people in my past because there is a reason why they didn’t make it to the future. It is a noble concept on the surface but upon examination it’s stupid. The people in your past DO matter. There is a reason they were once your friend and once they are no longer there, it hurts.

For the friends that made it to your present, they feel lucky. Any true friend feels lucky to be so. It is those who don’t feel lucky to be your friends, that don’t belong in a friendship with you. It is those friends that hurt you. It is those friends you will give your ALL to and in turn don’t invite you. You probably always knew on some level that they would hurt you. They’ve done it before to you and to others. But it is them that you stick your neck out for and as thanks get blamed. A real friend apologizes when they are wrong and a true friend makes the first move to get things back how they used to be. A friend tells something you should know, even when it may hurt you. But what a real friend doesn’t do is purposely exclude and hurt you. That is when it is finally time to give up. There is no room in your life for so-called friends. There are far too many fabulous people in this world to spend your time worrying about one that has done you wrong. Let go of the anger and the hostility. and say good-bye to your friend. The few friends you considered a sweet escape are now fewer. Let them know that they’ve hurt you and that that they had FRIEND. A true friend, a friend that treasures your past and is thankful for the good times but you must now move on and that they are now, like many others, in your past.

Please don’t confuse hurt with weakness because I’m mad as hell. And the messages being sent are heard loud and clear. Those who are not invited are clearly not welcomed it’s just funny to think you thought they didn’t have my back.

The amazing thing about real friends is that they are an extension of your family. Treasure them. They are hard to come by. Those few ride or die friends that have your back to the end, the ones that stick by your side when old friends try to hurt you, those are the ones to hold on too. Let them know what they mean to you and be thankful because a real friend will be there till the end no matter what happens in between.

When it comes down to it some friends will drive on your birthday and some just won’t.